Monday, November 17, 2014

Remaining Thankful When Facing Unpredictable Circumstances


In the course of just a few days my life turned upside down and went kerplunk. A planned birthday vacation to Maui, and an unforseen illness of family members just landed in my lap like a bag of marbles and each one rolling in a different direction. It reminded of a game I used to play as a child called kerplunk where the object consisted of pulling out straws from a cylinder where marbles lay on top of them. One had to be careful and avoid having too many marbles fall at once- what are the odds you may ask yourself? With each new round your turn comes and and you pull a straw to be thankful only a few marbles drop.....or many fall and kerplunk!! it almost takes your breath away just hearing the sound. That edge we live on day to day, moment by moment can be similar to pulling straws and watching the marbles fall. How we react to the outcome or unforeseen events, the uncertainty of the moment cannot be predicted. For myself there was a feeling of standing on solid footing and the bottom fell out. That so familiar ground, the daily routine that is broken abruptly, staring one in the face. What to do, what words to utter, what thoughts to mind, what feelings to feel. Sometimes the answers do not come. Being still living in the moment is all one can do. The answers are not important at the time, living the moment to let things unfold is all one can do. Giving thanks all will be okay and having faith throughout is all I could find within my core being. During these days leading to Thanksgiving I give thanks, be it silent or out loud I am thankful for even the tiniest of things because we all have moments of kerplunk. Giving our daily thanks, some may overlook for times gets busy, unforeseen moments happen, and it is not only in joyous times thanks be given. I am reminded during the recent days that recently past, and the days to come, to give thanks and receive thanks with sincerity and an open heart. Enjoy this season of thanks and perhaps each new day you'll find yourself giving thanks as part of your daily routine.

"Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation"
Brian Tracy


Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Walking in nature



Of late, walking in nature has had a calming effect in stressful times. There's something special about experiencing one's feet on mother earth along with being amongst our trees. I recently went for a long walk in a forest nearby my town and hearing the swaying of the tress as the wind blew; the conversations the tress engaged in felt deliciously relaxing. The Japanese culture has a word for these nature experiences called forest bathing or Shinrin-yoku (森林浴).

It is said that forest bathing has healthy benefits that no other experience can replicate. The greenery of the forest and visual scenery dissipates stress, lowers blood pressure, reverses harmful environmental impact to our body, and even has anti-cancer properties. On my most recent forest bathing experience not only did I hear the tress conversing but a spotted owl made its appearance to a group of hikers and I. Certainly this marked a magical moment of the day!

I remember a trip to Japan where my relatives took a friend and I to a bamboo forest. I could never find the exact words to describe the sounds coming from the bamboo trees or the feeling of being amongst these giant bamboo trees, but it was one of the most relaxing experiences I've had. What I can describe about the times I had walking in the forest is that it removes the rough edges of daily stressors and spending so much time inside buildings and in our cities. In my town we are very fortunate to have several redwood forests where we can forest bathe. Walking beneath the canopy of these west coast natives and taking in their majestic beauty leaves a lasting imprint in my mind.

You can read more about Japanese forest bathing here http://www.hphpcentral.com/article/forest-bathing






STOPPING BY THE WOODS ON A SNOWY EVENING

by Robert Frost


Whose woods these are I think I know.
His house is in the village, though;
He will not see me stopping here
To watch his woods fill up with snow.

My little horse must think it queer
To stop without a farmhouse near
Between the woods and frozen lake
The darkest evening of the year.

He gives his harness bells a shake
To ask if there is some mistake.
The only other sounds the sweep
Of easy wind and downy flake.

The woods are lovely, dark, and deep,
But I have promises to keep,
And miles to go before I sleep,
And miles to go before I sleep.

Sunday, December 22, 2013

from guest writer Teo Piqué - Hope and Resilience In the Midst of War

Hope and Resilience in the Midst of War By Teo Piqué, Lowellian, Human Being – 15 Dec 2013 On March 18th, 2013 I left my home, friends and family for a six-month deployment with an independent international non-governmental organization (INGO) to the war torn African country of the Democratic Republic of The Congo (DRC). With all the personal stories of the recent passing of Nelson Mandela, it reminded me of my experience in 1998 when I went to South Africa to work with clinicians helping civilians deal with a post-apartheid reality. It was a long road of hope for South Africans. I’d like readers to think about another country in Africa, DRC, that needs hope, right now, to begin the long road that South Africans traveled many years ago, albeit a different kind of war, it is bloody, devastating and kills innocent civilians all the same. My post was in the village of Pinga which is in a remote part of North Kivu Province in Eastern DRC. Reaching Pinga requires a flight to Kigali, Rwanda, a four hour car ride to the Rwanda-DRC border a walk across the border to Goma, DRC and ends with a flight on a one-engine Cessna that lands in a very short grass air strip. From the air, the mountains covered in light and dark greens hide the atrocities of decades of conflict with a sinuous river that seemed to carry secrets of its past and perhaps its future through its rushing waters. Pinga is located in North Kivu Province, Eastern DRC and is made up of three small villages Nkassa, Katanga and Bushimo. This is primarily an agrarian patriarchal society where all the women and children are responsible for working the fields, fetching water and collecting wood or coal for the daily cooking fires. From the Cessna I saw thousands of cooking fires that I fantasized were SOS messages. At the base, a team of National Staff welcomed me with singing, dancing and their clanging of pots and pans. They seemed to be singing a song of hope that perhaps, I, a very small clinical psychologist, may help them with the atrocities they lived with every day. In the end they are the ones who inspired me with their resilience and hope.
The country is in the midst of a decades old conflict with over 52 militia groups fighting in a constant unpredictable chaos. The groups often morph and join forces for the temporary benefit of fighting against a mutual enemy and then disband again to fight against each other. Fighting is primarily over natural resources. Democratic Republic of Congo is rich in natural resources such as gold, tantalum, tungsten and tin used in a variety of electronics including cell phones. “Informal” mining is rampant, which also means the same of child labor. The United Nations estimates more than 2.6 million Congolese have been internally displaced due to this on-going armed conflict. Civilians are often stuck in the crossfire and suffer some of the worst human rights atrocities imaginable as a result of the war. The UN calls DRC the “Rape Capital of the World” and estimates there are “tens of thousands” of survivors of Sexual Violence in a population of approximately 70 million people where in the last two decades of conflict militia groups have used brutal Sexual Violence (SV) as systematic weapon of war aimed at destabilizing populations and destroying the social fabric of community and family bonds. Being a Trauma and Crisis Response Specialist who also treats Sexual Violence survivors the Congo was a good fit. In a culture where the SV survivor is blamed, many SV survivors never come forward for fear of reprisal, stigma or rejection by their husbands, family, the community or even worse, death. This culture of “suffer in silence” is a means of survival. In our clinic, we had to hide one rape survivor for 8 hours while a soldier posted himself with arms, outside. We were lucky he didn’t storm the clinic looking for her. The national Staff had put their own lives at risk by hiding this woman. If their deed had become known they would have been killed. They were scared, but they did what they felt they needed to do as clinicians, as human beings. Pinga was under the rule of one man who is currently wanted for humanitarian and human rights violations including mass rapes, mutilation and desecration of the dead. At times he would lop off the heads of the dead to put them on sticks and parade them through the villages to instill fear and intimidate anyone who questioned his authority. It felt to me, that historical Belgian colonialism lived on in the DRC of today. His lead men would return from villages and boast of their exploits and how they slayed innocent women, men, children, elderly, whole families. It didn’t matter that there were enemies to fight, if the enemy was housed in a certain village, the people of that village had to suffer. Whenever he saw me, one of number one’s lead men, who was always drunk, would want to talk with me and tell me of his exploits. Even though I was to remain neutral due to my agency’s policy, I would always walk briskly and try to avoid him so I wouldn’t have to listen to how many children and innocent people he had just killed. One day I had to tap into my own resiliency and strength and I imagined what a desperate life he must lead with no options for any other kind of work or life other than the military life of killing innocent people. No wonder he was drunk every day. Lack of resources due to the war, doesn’t allow for what Americans would consider the basics in life. In terms of our hospital and clinic, the structures have dirt floors, with waiting rooms exposed to the elements such as lizards, bats and other wildlife crawling or flying around. There is no running water, electricity or phone service in Pinga. Medical clinicians treated communicable diseases with the most basic resources and whatever our agency could offer. Many villagers simply die, especially infants and elders, due to lack of resources to treat a disease or sickness that is treatable in the United States. After battles the small hospital would be filled with innocent civilians who were survivors of gunshot wounds including babies. After one battle, as a mother ran with her baby on her back, the baby was shot and killed. The medical team wrapped up the baby’s little parts as neatly as possible so the mother could have some time with her baby to mourn her loss with some semblance of dignity. Another moment where the staff demonstrated resiliency was the day the clinic was in between another gunfight and one of the staff ran through the gunshots to grab a birthing kit and subsequently delivered a healthy baby in a tiny room packed with about 37 people hiding out. Another instance of resilience and hope was during a gunfight where villagers had fled to the bush and one of our National Staff trained to use a birthing-kit in the bush (we called them bush-kits) was able to grab one before fleeing and deliver a healthy baby in the bush. On our base a generator and batteries provided the luxury of internet service, radio and an emergency phone through a satellite internet connection. The villagers had none of these luxuries so I never complained about having to get my hot water on the open fire pit for my morning bucket showers. One of the luxuries we had on the base was a “safe room.” Whenever we were stuck inside for hours, I would laugh at the name of the room because if any of the large missiles hit our room, we’d be toast, however compared to what the National Staff and hospital staff had, we were extremely lucky. Out National Staff, like the villagers, are scared for their lives every time they must flee a gunfight into the bush, but they come back to work, either the same day or the next laughing and joking and life goes on. They are some of the most resilient people I have ever met. My work in the Congo included supervising the National Staff mental health counselors who had received the INGO’s trainings, but no formal education in the field of clinical psychology. This was challenging at times in regards to their theoretical understanding of mental health processes and phenomenon, but exciting as well, because they were so intelligent, eager to learn and hungry for knowledge. My counselors possessed deep compassion and heart in helping their fellow villagers. I learned a tremendous amount from them about the human spirit and resiliency in the context of providing clinical services to a population that was repeatedly and highly traumatized. Often before a battle many farmers, young and old, were abducted from the fields and inducted into the local military to boost numbers. Many of these unwilling soldiers would arrive at the clinic or hospital for medical treatment after training due to injuries from misfired arms with a desperate look of help me in their eyes. Helping people with psychological wounds was my specialty, but it was a challenge instilling hope in children and adults who were shaking with fear and worried about their families who did not know if they were alive or dead. We would do what we could in terms of offering hope in their desperate situations and the National Staff counselors were amazingly calm and composed while knowing we were dealing with the unknown. The spirit of the Congolese people was amazing. I have so many personal endearing stories of Congolese National Staff and villagers, both children and adults, who have educated me in so many ways. The one main thing I learned was the true meaning of resilience. Many stories of love and hope amongst such devastation kept me going. The people in Pinga are survivors. The villagers and National Staff kept humor and good spirits in the face of devastation and dehumanization. They would look forward to staff celebrations as a reprieve and loved to dance and listen to Congolese music. They kept hope and found a reason to go on every day. I laugh when I think about the excitement that a morsel of chocolate or cheese brought to the staff when an expatriate would return from vacation and offer these small gifts. I found inspiration in their hope and strength and I enjoyed every day I worked there. One villager, an older gentleman touched my heart forever. I would pass his house daily on my hike up and back down the hill to and from the clinic, I would take the opportunity to pick the pods of the Coix Lacryma-Jobi grass, known as Job’s Tears, that grew near his house. I used them to make jewelry for the National Staff. We always said hello even though I did not speak Kiswahili or the other local tribal languages that he spoke. One day this gentleman jumped up and ran into his house as my colleagues and I passed his yard. He came out with two handfuls of Coix Lacryma-Jobi pods that he had picked for me. I was so overjoyed and I did my best, in my limited Swahili, to thank him for his thoughtfulness. There was another battle and I never saw him again, but I will never forget his generosity. Here we were in the midst of a terrible war, yet he took the time to connect with a stranger and perhaps found hope in something amidst the war. What I will miss most is my daily dose of village children on my walks to and from the clinic. They knew me as the “bubble lady” because I blew bubbles every day for any child I passed. For those experiencing bubbles for the first time a fright would overcome them and some actually cried. As they got used to the benign spheres, the scared ones joined in the shouting for me to blow bubbles on my way through the village. Babies who had never seen a “mazungu” would cry when they saw me until they got to know me and got used to my strange olive skin and the bubbles that surrounded my head. Assertive and physically active, one child, Louisa was a firecracker. She lived at the Pinga hospital like many displaced children and would accost any expatriate staff she hadn’t met before to ask them why she hadn’t seen them yet or met them before and would demand to know their name and what they did. All in Swahili, of course and the laughter would come after the translation. She would provide a good laugh to everyone and to me as I walked back from work and would hear my name being yell from on high in the trees. It would be Louisa and her posse of friends picking guava and making her presence known to me as I passed by. Another memorable child was Georgina. Every day, she would be so excited to see me pass through the hospital. When she saw me coming, she would gather and prepare the younger children to join in on singing songs with me. We sang songs in Swahili, French and English. They often loved when I would teach them songs in English because it was a novelty. It didn’t matter that they didn’t understand the words, it was all in fun, especially the Peanut Butter song. This was one of their favorites and after I had it translated, the children laughed at the idea of mashed up nuts being stuck to the roof of your mouth and not being able to sing because of it. In one of the last gunfights before I left, Georgina, flew out of her flip-flops while fleeing from gunfire. She made it safely to shelter, but sadly without her only pair of shoes. She never asked me about a new pair of shoes since she knew this was not something our agency had, but before I left, I gave her my oversized hiking sandals. I never saw her beaming face when she received them, but I could only imagine her happiness. My only hope was that she would grow into them one day as well as grow into a human being who will maintain hope for herself, her people, her country…some way, some how We had an emergency evacuation out of Pinga, but I would return in a heartbeat. Even though I was only one humanitarian worker on the ground, I hope that I touched the hearts of some children and villagers in the small work I did in the small amount of time I was there. Although you are unlikely to have been to the Democratic Republic of The Congo, you most likely have a connection to the country every day of your life. Below is a link to a video that explains the concept of Conflict Minerals and each step in the process of how certain natural resources come from the Democratic Republic of The Congo through illicit means which support arms that kill innocent civilians and how they can end up in our every day electronic devices. Yes, devices like your cell phone. There is hope for innocent children and villagers to stay alive in this war and you, as an individual, can make a world of a difference, by asking retailers and manufacturers for Conflict-free Devices. Before your next purchase, you can simply ask “was this device made with conflict-free minerals?” The more people ask, the more this creates a demand for conflict-free devices. This is just a small bit of my reality for 5 months in 2013 and the reality of a lifetime for the people of DRC. I am wishing my brief article has demonstrated the goodness and hope of a people amidst a terrible war and has inspired you to help in the process of hope by decreasing arms that kill innocent people this war-torn country. You don’t have to be a Madiba to offer hope, just the special individual that you are who can offer hope by one simple question. Thank you for Reading and Happy Holidays – Teo.

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Birding in the Bay Area and Backyard Birding From Afar

Birding has become a new hobby at my home, and while it's been awesome making note of all the different species, finding places to bird watch has now become a weekend must! Here are pictures of the birds we tracked so far. ................................................................................................................................ And then there was the sandhill crane migration in Lodi ............................................................................................................................... Meadowlark, many ducks, hawks, and herons ................................................................................................................................ great blue heron in Bodega Bay, quail and snowy egrets ................................................................................................................................ more great blue herons and cormorants nesting and an osprey in the east bay regional park ................................................................................................................................ And the finale was a backyard visitor; a hoary redpoll, picture taken by Libby's dad all the way north in Alaska!

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

In my town… or "Where the Wild Things Are"

Foxes dance in the cold grey light, Birds startled burst into flight. Who can say why the foxes dance? Why they spin, caper and prance? Wendy Hibbs
Last evening an unexpected guest showed up and sat by our front door. Naturally I’m used to seeing the occasional raccoons, possums, and recently a Cooper’s hawk, visiting my backyard sanctuary however, a gray fox? I’d be foolish by stating I was wasn’t moved, but in reality little fox or kitsune sure made for a night of conversation. As one who follows mythology and auspicious signs, I found myself researching the web for lore about foxes, or in Japanese, referred to as ‘kitsune.’ In Japan, you will find many shrines guarded by kitsune, who is viewed as the protector of rice crops for farmers, and for good fortune. There is a Shinto temple guarded by kitsune near my grandmother's house in Chofu, Japan, and we would pass by it on our way to the market each morning. You would often see the townspeople stop and offer a prayer as they passed by as an offering.
On one website I found the following: Japanese lore;the magical shape-shifting fox (kitsune 狐) Stories depict them as intelligent beings and as possessing magical abilities that increase with their age and wisdom. Foremost among these is the ability to assume human form. While some folktales speak of kitsune employing this ability to trick others—as foxes in folklore often do—other stories portray them as faithful guardians, friends, lovers, and wives. Here the symbolism is two-fold. First, rice is sacred in Japan, closely associated with fertility (the pregnant earth) and with sustaining life. Inari and Inari's foxes must therefore be placated -- otherwise it would be disastrous to the livelihood of the nation's farmers and people. Once very common throughout Japan, foxes were nevertheless seldom seen since they moved at night; dead birds, broken fences and chicken's blood were the only evidence of their nocturnal passages. It may have been the difficulty of seeing a fox, or of keeping it in view for any period of time, which led to the notion that they undergo actual physical shift. A fox might skulk into the farmyards looking like a fox, but exit in an entirely different form -- as an old woman, a boy, a demon, or a princess. In Japanese lore, they live a sort of mirror image of human society, with fox lords and ladies, servants and laborers -- standing on hind legs, dressed in human clothes, and carrying out their mystic rituals by lantern light in the middle of the forest. To the end of mitigating the powers that these worrisome animals possessed, shrines were erected, and the fox-god, Inari, became the most popular roadside divinity, honored with a clap of the hands on passing by, or with a gift of flowers, sake, or fried tofu (aburage, believed to be a favorite food of foxes). Even today, it is common to see a little street-corner shelter with a ceramic fox image housed behind a grill, offerings carefully placed in front to ward off all dangerous eventualities. Foxes have to be placated, for they are potentially disastrous to the livelihood of the farmer. They are also constant and salutary reminders of the fox-like characteristics that lie at the root of human behavior as well (http://www.onmarkproductions.com/html/oinari.shtml).
And yet another: “If Fox has called on you, you may soon find the following show up in your life: An awakening and a keen awareness on how to advantageously use camouflage, shapeshifting and invisibility in your day-to-day life, how to swiftly and skillfully manipulate your surroundings or out-maneuver an opponent, and how to travel between worlds with ease. You may also find yourself experiencing an enhanced and stronger connection to your children and family in a protective way. And when Fox enters your life (and you WILL know exactly when he does, as you begin to move in a quicker manner and yet with a stealth and intuition beyond compare), you will find that you will begin to have an uncanny sense of self-preservation, an emerging ability to more quickly sense danger (and thus be able to avoid it), and an increase in practically all of your senses...both physical and metaphysical, and magickal. More info was found at: https://www.google.com/search?q=grey+fox&hl=en&tbo=u&tbm=isch&source=univ&sa=X&ei=ygMQUdrwLcSt0AHD04GABQ&ved=0CK4BEIke&biw=1173&bih=803 http://www.coyotes.org/kitsune/kitsune.html

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Many Doors

A new year approaches giving folks time to reflect on their past year and what, if any changes are in store to create a new life 'canvas'. How fortunate are we to begin with a new blank canvas and paint the picture we desire, to look new opportunities, possibilities, to renew, or.....not and accept as is. We've heard this saying many times, but how often has the later part been emphasized? "When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us" Alexander Graham Bell or similarly "When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us" Helen Keller.
I rode my bike around the island city and noticed the many different designs of doors, and thought how could I attribute these chosen doors to their owners. Where they chosen or circumstantial? What might these doors say about the lives of the people behind them? Are they welcoming, and cared after?
Offer a place of solace?
Allude to good fortune?
Give a strong sense of protection?
Playful and artsy?
or perhaps are obstructed and exhibit poor feng shui to the passersby?
Many thoughts came to mind as I began making note of the many varieties and designs of doors I came across; the unspoken 'statements' about the inhabitants lives. "Open doors" and the meaning behind these words connect to the opening and unveiling of what's to come, the many possibilities, the blessings in store, the positivity in all.
Open me, come inside, create what lies ahead for the better good, and make ways to move forward and grow, enhance, and let go of the old - no longer needed. I plan as I do every year to take this time of year to reflect, reinvent, make intentions, and open my arms and heart to the lessons and blessings in store for this new year. Happy new beginnings, 2013.

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Grace

“I do not at all understand the mystery of grace- only that it meets us where we are but does not leave us where if found us" Anne Lamott.
We say Grace to give thanks and blessings, and we ask for Grace that our lives will be protected and watched over. For many we look to God for Grace every day and are thankful Grace is given. In my home, we say Grace before each meal; this is a practice, which has been in our family since my earliest remembrances. As I sat and sipped my coffee I thought about Grace and how it affects my life especially today, and I am very thankful for where it has brought me, for Grace should not be overlooked. I found in a search via the internet that Grace has a tradition and deep spiritual meaning in various cultures.
Divine grace is a theological term, which is present in many and varied spiritual traditions. However, there are significant differences between the way people of different traditions use the word. In particular, a more treatment of the Grace of God indicates that Divine Grace is one of the three categories of Grace. The other two are Material Grace and Spiritual Grace. In Christianity, the New Testament states "Grace is the empowering Presence of God enabling you to be who He created you to be, and to do what He has called you to do", and "Grace, the state of kindness and favor towards someone, often with a focus on a benefit given to the object."
In India, Hinduism is replete with references to grace (kripa) as the ultimate key required for spiritual self-realization, and considered it to be the only way to transcend the bondage of lifetimes of karma. One Hindu philosopher,Madhvacharya, held that grace was not a gift from God, but rather must be earned.
In Islam, Jordan wrote that "Paradise is something of immense value; a person cannot earn it by virtue of his deeds alone, but by the Grace and Mercy of Allah." This stance is supported by hadith: according to Abu Huraira, Muhammad once said that "None amongst you can get into Paradise by virtue of his deeds alone ... not even I, but that Allah should wrap me in his grace and mercy.
In Greek Mythology it is the three sister goddesses in who are the givers of charm and beauty. These 3 are the daughters of Zeus and Eurynome; Aglaia, the Grace symbolizing Beauty, Euphrosyne, the Grace of Delight and lastly Thalia, the Grace of Blossom. The Greek poet Pindar, stated these enchanting goddesses were created to fill the world with pleasant moments and goodwill.
During the recent presidential debates, a question posed to both candidates was what is your favorite word? President Obama’s response was "Grace. I love the word grace because I think it captures what we strive for in life. It's not just an individual thing. It's not just a matter of excellence of something you've achieved. It's something internal to you, but it's also something that's given to you. It's not just individual, but it has to do with your relationships with others. You know, those moments of grace that we have - grace notes that we have in our lives.”
How ever you define Grace, my hope is that one never falls from Grace, and that we instill Grace in our lives every day.